Let's Have a Baby-bration!
We spend much time and effort creating memorable milestones for the most important of life's events. Events like graduation, wedding or commitment ceremonies, baptisms, bar mitzvahs, baby showers and anniversaries unfold with precise orchestration. We plan out what we will look like, who will be there, what will be eaten, what the decor will entail, what will be said, etc. All of this very special love and work go into making these celebrations perfect!
And you crossed over into another one, momma: being with child.
Finding out your pregnant can feel like a split between internal and external pressures. Internally going into uncharted territory emotionally and physically and externally sharing the news with family and friends and prepping for the arrival. It's not the easiest road to navigate.
I invite you to take a moment and step away from the madness, confusion, and overwhelm and step into a few tranquil precious moments with your little one. Just the two of you, cozy together, connecting your hearts honoring this new bond.
Let's have a baby-bration!
A baby-bration is an heartfelt ceremony between you and baby (maybe your spouse too) to really connect for a few minutes. It might be the first time you've really stopped to talk to your baby with a full heart. Your energy may go to new heights and you might just feel your heart explode with a new kind level of love.
Let your heart be your guide as you hold this very special ceremony.
I have provided you with instructions below; you are certainly free to modify it to however you like. The point is to make a special effort celebrating and connecting with your baby in womb.
Tip: Don't rush off to include your spouse/partner in this ceremony. This is really intended for you to connect with your baby, momma. This part of motherhood can be incredibly tender and you may not want to share your inner-most personal thoughts with anyone else aside from your baby. So if you'd rather hold the ceremony alone, rock on. And if you'd rather have your spouse/partner there, that's great too. Whatever works best for YOU <3
Tip #2. Read through this and prepare everything you want to include so that when you sit down to have your baby-bration, you can just enjoy the ride. Allow all the love and good feelings to come fully forward!
Tip #3. *Download the PDFs to print* and take with you. Leave the computer or phone behind and use old school print outs to guide you. There's an overview sheet that outlines the steps, a notes page, and a detailed instructions page. Use any combo that works for you. If you take notes, it might make for a treasured keep-sake.
Complete Instructions for Creating Your Baby-bration
Take a deep breath or three. Feel the rest of the world melt away and your focus is solely in the moment. You are fully present.
"Hi, my baby. It's so good to spend this quiet time alone together."
2. Play a song.
Listen to your favorite song that makes you feel so full of love. Maybe something that makes you feel sappy, empathetic, you know…any song that hits you in your heart. Listen as many times as you need to feel like your heart is in the zone--like it’s raw and so big.
- "It Won’t be like this for Long" by Darius Rucker
- “Better Place” by Rachel Platen
- "Baby Mine” by Nick Lachey or Bette Midler
3. Read my original "The Baby Vow" with heart.
To my baby:
Thank you. Thank you for picking me. Picking ME to help you along your journey. I am honored that you saw potential me in that I may not yet know, see or understand.
I do not know what this lifetime together will bring, but I know and vow that I will be the best mother and guide I can. I vow to do my best to understand you and bring the experiences that you need to grow into yourself.
There may be days where we don’t see eye to eye, but I will always love you; forever there will be a piece of my heart with your name.
I love you.
And so it is written in the stars and on my heart.
4. Let the words flow from your own heart to your baby's.
Open your heart and share what's there. Take the time you need, fully express yourself. If your partner is present, this is a great time to invite them to share too.
You may also wish to add other works like poems, books, or prayers.
5. Play another song.
See suggestions above. Or consider even singing to your baby something like "You Are My Sunshine" or your favorite inspirational song.
Take a deep breath or three. Imagine your feet solid on the earth's surface (like the beach or dewy grass) and you feel fully present. You are consciously ending this ceremonious time with your baby.
"It was so good to connect and tell you how much I (we) love you. I want you to know how often I think of you and dream of meeting. I love you."
And take one last deep breath to bring you officially out of baby-bration.
7. Soak it in.
Don't be in a rush off to the next thing, if you can. Soak in what just unfolded and what you experienced. Sit there for a few more minutes (if it feels right) and then transition off to the rest of life.
8. Come tell us about your experience.
I'd LOVE to hear how your experience was--come share over *here*!
If now isn't the right time to have your baby-ration, the details to come back later were sent to your email.
You can have another baby-bration any time you want. Ideas for more:
- Another to include your spouse/partner
- One each month
- One before your estimated arrival date.
There are lots of options to make this perfect for you two. You can customize it by adding, removing, or changing whatever parts need it in order to feel right. Follow your heart to know what's best for you!